Ladies, we’ve all been there before– finding ourselves stressing over a man, holding onto a toxic relationship, or in some cases a situationship (I prefer shituationship), hoping that one day he’ll come to his senses and things will soon change. Sound familiar? Now before we continue, what exactly is a situationship? A situationship is a relationship without the title, you know, friends but more than friends all while still being JUST friends. Problematic huh? More like a shit show, hence the name ‘shituationship.’ Whether you want to admit it or not, you’ve been in this position before. We all have, and honestly.. it’s okay. But at some point enough is enough. In this generation, situationships seem to be the new norm.Everyone wants a relationship, yet no one wants to put their feelings on the line and take that risk. No one really dates anymore, its more like you text, catch feelings, have sex, fall off.

So you find yourself in this situationship and you’re stuck. You don’t want to give up, you’ve invested toomuch time and effort into this person, but you’re also sick of wasting your time. Three words… LET IT GO. LET HIM GO. That was six, but you get the picture. It is 2017, ladies we’ve got to stop wasting our time on men who aren’t ready to commit. Stop making excuses for a GROWN man’s piss poor actions. If a man really wants to be with you, he will SHOW you. Actions speak louder than words ma. If you find yourself making excuses FOR him, trying to justify his actions.. hang it up. If he’s always “busy,” working out, playing ball with the guys, out with his family, or here’s my favorite one ‘getting to the money.’ You typically only hear that cornball line when dealing with someone from the streets. Nonetheless, whatever his reason may be for him ALWAYS going MIA… cancel him. Always remember, people make time for WHO and WHAT they want to make time for.

When dealing with a man, you’re not suppose to feel exhausted, orlike you’re begging for his time and attention. No matter how badly you hope and pray that it will work out, the sad truth is that not all relationships are meant to last. Some people are putin your life as a lesson. Situationships are oneof the biggest lessons to teach you about self-love and knowing your worth. When you learn to value yourself, you attract people who know your worth and discourage people who want to chip away at your happiness.

Block his number ladies. Yes block, if you block their number you won’t get their messages when they come back around, because trust me.. they will try. Delete those pictures and text conversations(THE ENTIRE THREAD), and love yourself. And whatever you do, do NOT blow their phone up because you need ‘closure’. Take that hint. Move on, and let go. Moving on and letting go is all abouthaving respect for yourself. Contrary to what anyone says, blocking someone is not a sign of weakness, it doesn’t mean they won. It means you are finally learning your worth and allowing yourself towalk away from people that no longer serve you. So again, block him ladies– block his number, love yourself and drink your water.

Sidenote: don’t block him on Instagram though, let himcheck in on you to catch your GLO up. ♥

Block his number 2017