Happy Father's Day.... MOM?

Yeah, you read that right. Happy Father's Day MOM, too bad 

Father's Day isn't for single mothers.

Over the years, I've noticed people giving recognition to their mothers for playing both the mommy role, as well as the daddy role, something I have grown to hate. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for shouting out our mothers and letting the world know just how great she is. After all, to most people, our mom is our hero, so I get it. However; there is a time and place to do such-- and today is NOT the time. For heaven's sake, its FATHER'S DAY-- a day to honor and celebrate the influence of father's.

Contrary to what society has brainwashed you all into believing, a mother cannot play the role of a father. Regardless of what measures a mom takes when it comes to raising a child and filling the void of not having a father figure, she will always be just that. A mom. 

Nothing screams 'hey I need attention' more than honoring your mother on a day specifically made out for fathers. This day was created for men who are actively involved in the upbringing of their child, why would you want to devalue that by being selfish and bitter? Yes bitter, because most times if the child isn't bashing their absentee father, the mother is-- especially these new and age young mothers. No one wants to log onto Facebook, Twitter or Instagram and see the negativity and anger you have towards your father/baby's father because he decided to miss out on a blessing.

I'm not sure when this cultural campaign of identifying single mothers on Father's Day became a thing, but it'd be great if it stopped. If you ask me, nothing good comes out of it anyway. By taking credit of playing the father figure in your child's life you are unconsciously sending them negative messages that will affect the way they view men in general, specifically their father. Here are just a few of the MANY negative messages:

• Your dad is replaceable- False. Although you can fill the void of a missing father with a mentor, uncle, grandparent.. hell even a coach, you only have ONE father.
• Your dad sucks- Okay, while that may be true, that's something they should figure out on their own as they get older.
• Men are irrelevant/you don't need a father- False. A man can teach valuable life lessons and give advice to both young boys and girls that a woman cannot give simply because she is not a man.

I'm sure it sucks to not have an active father figure in your life, and as a mother it pains you to know your child is missing that relationship, because they are vital, whether you want to admit it or not. However, don't take away from the day and make it about something/someone else. Rather than focusing on the negative, redirect your focus on something positive and acknowledge someone who is worthy of it. i.e. a coach, a professor, uncles, cousins, grandfathers. I refuse to believe that y'all have grown up with zero male influence in your life. So what he's not your biological father, if you have someone who has filled the emptiness of not having your father... it's okay to show your appreciation. 

 Father's Day comes once a year, let these men enjoy their day in peace. You can express your deepest and most sincere love for your mother on Mother's Day, and for those who feel they need to be glorified for being a single parent, surprise surprise, there's a day for that too. (March 21). 

Until then, Happy Father's Day to all.