How single are you?
With the passing of Valentine's Day just last week, many of you probably found yourself fake heartbroken, lonely and disappointed. A reality most of you already knew, but too caught up in your fairy-tale situationship to face the music.
We all know what situationships are because we've all been there done that. And if you're rolling your eyes thinking 'not me' that's cap.
In case you need a little reminder of what a situationship is; it's a fake relationship that leaves the two involved comfortable, yet someone is always unhappy-- usually the girl. And in a generation full of fake monogamy, casual sex and a lack of communication it seems to be the norm.
And while that may be nice to do as you please with no real commitment to one another, all while reaping the benefits of a relationship.. it can get ugly.
BUT Enough of that, contrary to what I've already typed thus far... this post isn't for bashing situationships.. we already did that last year (Just in case you missed the tea).
I'm saying this to say this... Valentine's Day is a great way to discover how single you really are. Like yeah okay you're single, but did you at least have the option to partake in the festivities? Was a text or card sent/received? Did you consider going out with someone? Did someone ask you out?
So after asking yourself these questions....
HOW SINGLE ARE YOU?
In no way shape or form is this question biased towards single being a wrong state of life-- it could really be the right state of life for certain singles. You see, in today's generation.. we have single, and then there's single single.
Now I'm assuming you're wondering whats the difference between the two. Because single is single right?
The answer is simple...
are you or are you not getting ya soul snatched?
Ladies, ask yourself. Is there someone (or even multiples) in your guts? And fellas, ask yourself are you in someones guts?
Anyways, if the answer is yes and you find yourself casually catching a nut or two.... you my friend are just single.
Now if the answer is no, not only are you single single.. but you're probably in a drought. Dry as ever, ya phone and little thang thang.
Most people are never just single single-- at least not for long.
There's always someone on the sideline. Whether its an ex, a friend, a friend of a friend, the homie, your arch nemesis' cousin.. whoever is waiting to be called off the bench. Point is, someone's not too far.
Because the realty of it is, no matter how casual the sex starts off... its always going to turn into something a wee bit more. And just like that, you're single.
Y'all love posting about being single but you never specify how single. Funny how y'all always seem to leave out that part. Even funnier that you're still lying to the TL as if we don't know.
People who frequently tell the internet they're single are never just single single. It's always some complicated story. Save yourselves the stress. Don't shoot that shot. ISSA TRAP. In fact, they're usually posting to make someone mad. Petty right?
It's hard to believe anyone is actually single single. But I mean, can you really blame them? Look at our generation.
So next time you're discussing your relationship status, please be sure to specify which category of single you fall under. And if you're still unsure.. here are a few key factors to determine your relationship status.
- If you can't post freely without someone getting upset at you, telling you to take it down.. my friend you're single.
- If you're casually having sex with a person, or persons.. my friend you're single.
- AND lastly, if someone asks you if you're single and you have to pause to think (because you're in a situationship).. my friend, you are single.
So again, how single are you? Are you single, or single single?